Leadership is a human, not a male attribute

Margaret Thatcher

Today, I would like to talk about female leaders. I remember an occasion in my third year at primary school. The class teacher wanted a new class prefect, so she decided to organise a maths test. Whoever scored the highest was going to be the class prefect. The person with second highest score would be assistant.

The maths test was done and the results were out. I got the highest score and a girl got the second highest A boy got the third highest score. But what did my teacher do? She made the boy the prefect, while she asked me to be the assistant. Even as young as I was then, I knew that was unfair! I told her I wasn’t interested in being the assistant, hence the girl with the second highest score was made the assistant.

You see, I worked so hard to get to the top of the class. I spent the previous day and night doing my maths. I wanted the prestige of being the class prefect, and not assistant. But no matter how hard I worked, I just wasn’t good enough for the real deal, I was told that I was only good enough to be assistant to a boy.

In the secondary school my sisters attended, they had majority of the prefects as males. The girls were all assistants. It didn’t matter whether the girls were better, being female made them only good enough to assist the males. As a matter of fact, the post of the “senior prefect” was exclusively reserved for the best boy. The best girl was always his assistant, the assistant senior prefect, the head girl. In many cases, the best students were girls, but they were still made to aspire for the second best position, no matter how good they were.

Benazir Bhutto - Former prime minister of Pakistan
Benazir Bhutto – 11th and 13th prime minister of Pakistan

Majority of the SUG presidents in Nigerian universities are males. It is actually only in recent years that females started aspiring to hold positions in their student unions. The first time I saw a female president was in my universities in the UK. It felt strange at first because of what I had been used to back home. There, girls go head-to-head with their male counterparts, and we the voters voted based on credibility, and not based on genital type.

From a very young age, the female child is being told that she can’t be better than a man, she is being told that the best she can be is second to the man. This indoctrinated mentality develops as she grows, and it becomes embedded over time. She gets told by family and society that “a man is a man” and “a woman can never be a man”.

As though a man can be a woman in the flip of a finger. She gets told that being a wife in a home where the man will be her “head” is the best she can aspire to be. Do you still wonder why the higher you go, the less females you see?

There are fewer females at the top because the zeal and enthusiasm to succeed, compete and beat the male counterparts have been killed from the very start. A successive destruction of the female psyche that went on over her years of mental development.

Only a few are able to break free from this societal-inflicted mental paralysis, and go higher. And it is these few that you see at the top.

©CNN|Hillary Clinton
©CNN|Hillary Clinton – Democrat presidential candidate, USA.

There are even cases where people have refused to vote for a particular candidate just because she is female.

I know we have come a long way from where we started the cause to break the gender barriers, but there is still a lot to be done. We are still very far away from where we should be. We can do more as individuals and as people, we can start in whatever capacity we have.

Angela Merkel
Angela Merkel – Prime Minister, Germany
  • Let us stop giving boys the impression that being males automatically entitles them to be better than half the world’s population.
  • Teachers and head teachers should allow the most deserving students to be the prefects, irrespective of gender.
  • Vote the people who you genuinely believe are best suited for a particular position, irrespective of gender.
  • Encourage girls as much as you encourage boys to aspire for top and leadership positions.
  • Do not give female children the impression that the best they can be is second to a man.

Let every individual have a fair chance to compete, and let the best person (not best male) win.

When it comes to choosing, appointing or electing a leader, we stand a better chance of choosing the best from a whole population than we do from choosing from half the population.

Leadership is a human quality which actually cuts across both genders.

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  1. This is sobering, even when the issue isn’t new. However, the truth is that however we might want to fight gender discrimination, unless parents of girl kids are sincere enough to accept their daughters as humans that they are, so long shall the society continue to revel in this unwarranted, outdated discriminatory practices. They won’t tell you, but what better way to tell your children that they are unwanted than spurious continuation of childbearing as you shop in frenzied manner for the magic sex? At the end of the day when they overreach themselves and are unable to fend for the number of children, the parents may lose the whole game when their teen girls begin to get pregnant due to lack of parental care. Our experience is apt here. By the time we had our third/last baby who happened to be a girl like her two older ones, we had more than enough advice to “try one more”, as if they would be the ones to fend for them, and as if it’s a curse to have girls.

    • Hmmn, one of the subtle but very effective way of telling the girl child “you’re not it” .

      This is the truth dear Adesola Ayo-aderele.

      We are grateful minds like yours exist.

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