Given the pressures to keep up with the Joneses in Nigeria – real life, virtual life and social media life – it’s hardly surprising that there have been more write ups about depression and news about suicide lately. Today, we saw another instalment of the Nigerian madness: the news of popular blogger, Blessing Okoro, also known as Blessing CEO, who was arrested for flaunting her supposedly newly acquired mansion, which actually belongs to someone else, on her 30th birthday.
The actual owner of the house, Onye Eze na China arrested Blessing Okoro for daring to call his house hers. She was even made to go on her knees and confess that the house did not actually belong to her. This, after she had gone to great, fraudulent lengths to provide ‘papers’ attesting to her purchase of the property.
Too many people (youths especially) are living perfect lives on social media, putting themselves under immense pressure to impress their friends and followers. This obviously has led to a life of comparison which has left many youths unhappy and depressed.
People become unhappy if their photos do not reach a certain number of ‘likes’, or if their friends are getting more ‘likes’ or attention on social media.
As a result, youths are willing to do just about anything to get the perfect photos for Instagram.
Blessing Okoro has become a scapegoat for a crime committed not just by her, but by many others (who haven’t yet been caught). Hopefully, such acts of ‘showmanship’ will be discouraged henceforth.
There are consequences to actions. The social media life seems to be one of such consequences since social media became part of our lives.
In spite of the many advantages of social media, there are many parts of our lives that are better off offline. People’s lives are usually peaceful until they start comparing themselves with others. And the social media life is as a result of such comparisons.
Until young people become more concerned about their own lives, working on their dreams and goals, rather than comparing with others, there’s going to be more talks and lectures on depression, unfortunately.
If we are more concerned about making an impact in our societies and the world at large, then we have to spend more time on ourselves, building and developing our skills, nurturing our talents and making a difference.
All the pressure of living the social media life is self-inflicted and not needed. You have nothing to prove to anyone.
Let me end with these lines from the song; The Greatest Love of All:
I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadows.
If I fail, if I succeed, at least I lived as I believe.
No matter what they take from me, they can’t take away my dignity.
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