Wait fess, na true? Suitors now prefer our maids to our daughters for marriage


In fact ehn, nothing person no go see for this small life wey e come so. I have no comments or thoughts on the write-up below. All I know is that it’s been doing the rounds on Facebook and we can’t even find the writer to ask him to clarify some of the points. He seems to be making the point that the way our girls are being brought up, Nigerian men marrying the house help is not as far fetched as it once seemed. You know…as opposed to the usual practice of raping them and getting them pregnant. I’ll leave you guys to give us your opinion on the piece. God bless you as you comment!  😆


Why not?

When we devote time in training the maids on how to cook well, how to clean the house and on good mannerisms while leaving our own daughters untrained.

We overwork the maids and they adjust with equanimity because they need us to survive.

The maids turn out to manage the indignation and insolence we and our children subject them to. All these make the maids better wives who can manage even the angriest of men.

Our precious daughters are pampered through nursery and primary schools. They speak the English we want and know all the cartoon slang by heart. We beat the maids blue black if they ever ask our girls to help out in domestic duties. They see kitchen things as maids’ things.

The girls move from boarding schools to the university, do their NYSC, Masters and get a job. Of course, they are ripe for marriage and you wish that to happen soon.

From one relationship to another, the same story. The guys would parade and dump them. They are only good in bed, outings, clubs and red carpet functions.

The boys de-commit when they notice that the possible wife cannot cook, arrange things and are very domestically untrained. The rich guys can manage as they would mitigate the handicap by hiring a domestic help. Not all guys can afford this for a start.

The upcoming and very sensitive guys who would make good husbands, fathers and leaders would not manage these parents’ inflicted shortcomings. They would settle for well trained ones. They know the value and the pride in hosting friends at home to delicious delicacies prepared by a wife.

My friends love eating the food my wife makes. My wife’s proficiency in culinary matters and the joy she exudes in cooking different dishes for me has made me to stop eating outside. I tell people that as a titled man, that I’m forbidden to eat outside but I know the truth- no food can taste any better than my wife’s. I’m also convinced that my addiction is not juju-inspired. It would have expired by now. We are married for 16 years+.

Not all your maids would remain your servants for ever. Some of them would finally do part-time studies and like a train, get to their God ordained destinations sooner or later.

Like a perfume, good guys perceive well trained wife materials from afar and dump the daughters of the bourgeois like hot iron. Long time happiness in at stake. No explanation is given. Sometimes, the sack message is made through a social medium.

Let your daughters learn what you teach your maids to make them compete for the few available good men if marriage is important to them. There are few guys who believe that marriage is for better for worse.

Don’t be deceived; love is an active verb. Yes it is. You love; you loved; and you used to love. You can also hate who you used to love. Therefore, some men are immune to pre-marital love blindness.

In practice, love can’t cover the stench of bad early formation of our daughters.

Right now, educated former maids are now cornering better men on offer because they possess the requisite or set skills the highly perceptible and ready husband materials need.

Mothers please take note.

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  1. This is stupid…. What is wife material biko?…. Girls cannot have career again because they want to please a man…… Everybody should learn how to clean and take care of his or herself…. Don’t come and tell me rubbish about wife material… As if girls aren’t human beings…
    The maids sef he’s talking about don’t you think they have dreams to fulfill…. Won’t they like to be lawyers or doctors? Please…. Whoever wrote this thing should just go back to his house and think of his life…

  2. Dis Post Is Nt Legitimate!Hw Can U Use D Word “MAID”Didn,t They Come D Way Ur So Called Daughters Came Into D Word,4 Christ Sake Let Us Stop Dis Discrimination,we R All Human_ Beings,God Has Nt 4saken Anyone Then Y Should We?Be Concious Of Ur Statement Pls Imagine “maid”

  3. …all the virtuperations are unnecessarily taking the intent of this well written matter of fact reality on ground out of context. Train your girl child on basic domestic chores. They will become better wives. Who doesn’t want her daughter to be a great wife? Experience has shown that the so called maids grow up to be better wives than the pampered open book cooks that daughters have become. Lesson being advocated here is,”teach your child” including the boy child.

  4. House girls are usually obedient and hardworkg. So it is common logic that they may carry such highly sought-after behaviours to their marital homes. The average man needs a woman who wl b hardworkg and obedient.

  5. Men want to marry maids. How is that news headline? Is maid not human? Men marry maids all over the world. Only in Nigeria where we think maids are inferior is this a news headline.

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