Bride tells wedding guest £100 cheque is too small a gift

Mumsnet wedding guest money

Trouble dey sleep, yanga go wake am. This is the sort of story that gets me riled up and makes me break out in a rash of swear words. The Mumsnet wedding gift story is the tale of how a lady went to an ex-colleague’s wedding and dropped £100 cheque as a wedding gift, only to be told via email by the couple that the gift was not enough and asked to contribute more.

Somebody will be trying to be a good and holy person; trying to allow Jesus to use them, but world people will not allow somebody to be great.

The lady who got the RUDE ASS message pasted it on the popular site, Mumsnet and…let’s just say I’ll let you read the post first before I hyperventilate:

I recently attended an ex-colleague’s wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can’t help feeling it shouldn’t).

Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they’d all been.

[It] then said: ‘We were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received’

For someone who’s not easily shocked I confess I’m utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I’ll mention that ‘your own position’ probably refers to a recent inheritance I’ve had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)

Please anyone, what do I do now? I’ve never come across anything like this before and still can’t quite believe they’ve done it – but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??

Mumsnet wedding guest asked for bigger contribution

Y’all see this foolishness, right?? Soooo…my relative died so that I should now be dashing you money, not so? Is it your money? Did I send you wedding??

Understandably, the mumsnet wedding gift debacle got more than 1000 comments within a matter of hours and 99.9% of the users saw the foolishness of the newlyweds with some saying the following:

“I would email back but BCC any mutual friends in so they are able to see the email for themselves. That is entitled and grabby. It’s a gift not an obligation and many people wouldn’t have given so much to an ex-colleague.”

Another user saying “Cancel the cheque, then post their email on Facebook” (I’m all for this one, complete with their wedding picture and everything – silly sausages!)

The original poster did come back to reveal that they replied to the email, writing in a separate post: “I’ve just replied to her email with one sentence: ‘I assume this was some sort of mistake?'”

I’m curious though: what do you guy make of this nonsense and ingredients??

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  1. Some people will do wedding registry and be putting things they wouldn’t spend their own money on. I went for one wedding like that and they had things like…microwave, oven, sets of expensive pots, wine cooler, Martha Stewart Sheets, Kitchen Aid mix etc. I was like…I haven’t even bought expensive pots for my own kitchen. I when to walmart and got a nice set of plates for $49.99, wrapped it very well, I even added a ribbon. Whether they appreciate it or not, that is their problem. I won’t enter gbese for your wedding. Oh and this is after already spending money on Aso ebi o.

  2. My response would be to ask for the £100 back, and give them a £20 John Lewis voucher instead. Yes – £20!! Oh, and I will rock up, I go chop wedding food bellehful plus do take away sef. What nonsense! *high-fiving myself*

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