Parents, raise your sons to be like the husbands you desire for your daughters

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Firstlady Ibiene Williams
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    To our mothers, please, stop teaching your daughter that it’s her job to fix her man! Who will fix her, when she is busy fixing another? Raising sons is as important as raising daughters.

    Momma, stop telling her that she’s the home builder! Tell her that she will work hand in hand with her husband to build her home.

    Our society today is littered with over-burdened wives, mothers, sisters and daughters. They are weary, they are stressed and drained from having to fix themselves as well as fixing an adult who ought to be fixing himself and fixing things around the house.

    Look around you, you’ve succeeded in raising strong daughters and weak sons. Sons who grew to become nonchalant men, men who rather feast while the women work.

    Ma’am, teach your son that it’s his job to provide for his family totally and exclusively. That way, when such expectations aren’t there, he will very much appreciate any input she makes.

    Teach your son that he’s the sole protector of his home. That way, he will not run off to chase pleasures safe in the idea that “my wife will handle it.”

    Mama, teach your son that loving his wife is a daily affair, and he must make her feel loved in every sense of the word.

    Dad, make your son understand that he has not done anything for his children, until he loves their mother fully.

    Papa, raise your son, by loving his mother purely. When he sees you doing it right, he will do it better in his marriage.

    Daddy, teach your son never to depend on a woman. That way, he will never look at a woman as his support, he will put in his best to be there for his family.

    Mum and Dad, raise your sons to be the picture of the husbands you desire for your daughters!

    Thanks for reading!

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    87 COMMENTS

    7. So funny. U just tell carrier women what they want to hear. Sorry.posts and groups like this has been those blowing the trumpet of equality between husband and wife on all issues like the European society have today. But u fail to announce to these Nigerian ladies u are infusing with borrowed culture that today 4 out of 5 marriages in Europe does not last beyond its 6th year anniversary. Is that a good result from the ideas u are teaching? See the high number of single mothers now in most African cities where ladies has fallen deep into your kind of idea of equality on basis to challenge her husband to a captaincy. Your types are agent of the devil carrying the banner of the coming anti Christ culture prevalent now through western civilization

    • If your mother and grand mother was oppressed wud they have been alive together? So dear the word oppression is your own mental creation and sold out to guarantee for some ladies evil liberty that eventually ruin their marriage. The funny thing is that every boy grew up to read in all bible and Koran that as a man he is to head his wife so you ladies attempt for equality or unchecked liberties continue to be repugnant to the nature of men.few may tolerate it for awhile but after a long time he just burst and can’t take it from the woman anymore resulting in a break up of sometimes marriage if 10.15.even 18 years. So choose unchecked liberty or happy marriage life forever

    • Dear Bethel, I think ur missing d point. Marriage is a partnership where everyone plays their role be it honoring or submission. Whereby 1 party is always stereotyped as d ‘builder’ , ‘ rock’ or whatever other title, after a while resentment sets in. It takes several hands to build a house, y should a marriage b any different? Women r genetically submissive, observe a nursing mother.

    • You belong in a cave as you’ve clearly shown you lack the basic God-given ability to adapt…..pls find a time machine, go back 2million years and crawl into a cave with you unopposable thumb and butt-naked, raw meat-eating self. #stupid

    • You crawl back into your cave now. There is a reason our grandparents stayed together. The women were afraid to leave because of the stigma and mockery. Today more women are finding their voices and refusing to be stripped of their self worth all in the name of marriage. That’s the reason we have broken marriages today. Men previously have been told they are mini god’s and have no role to play in the success of their homes. They can stray and abuse and neglect all they want, and their wives should submit, endure and tolerate to build her home. Bullshit. If you want a happy home grntleman, pull your pants up and endeavour to work with your wife. Submit to her as she submits to you. Love her, she ain’t you cook or laundry. Get with the programme. Oh, and welcome to 2016 by the way.

    • I earlier said it that it is the women who have lost their marriage on account of the contest and quest for unbridled liberty and equality that I see their response .sorry don’t cry over a spilled milk.because u tried what you read and heard by feminist writers and got your relationship crashed does not mean you should keep on propagating such ideas to younger girls so you cud have more persons in your situations to console each other that after all you arnt the only one.I can even see one with a glass of liquor posed in her mouth as a profile picture. You can infer her level of moral etiquettes. Unguilded liberty.she suppose she is same as a man in all including in relationship.why then did u not go to pay dowry on a man instead of the reverse

    • Since you’re speaking from a seemingly Christian angle Mr Bethel, I’m going to quote the bible to you.

      Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
      5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
      5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
      5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

      A CHRISTIAN woman is meant to submit to her husband the way the church submit to Christ. Complete and total. I don’t know about you or your church but the church I worship with submits to Christ and LOVE it. We are not brought up to think of ourselves as inferior or equals to Christ, no; we are instead brought up to fellowship with Christ. That involves walking hand in hand with him. You tell Him what you want and if it’s not bad for you; He gives you in the same vein, He tell you what He wants and you do it.
      And then it talks about husbands loving their wives just as Christ loves the church. Have you ever come across the place in the bible where Christ washed the feet of his disciples and taught them that a leader is meant to serve?

      This means that as a wife; I walk and work hand in hand with my husband. Not FOR him. But WITH him And that is what this post focuses on. It tells women to teach their sons how to walk hand in hand with a woman instead of walking ahead of her and expecting her to follow while smiling and saying ‘Yes Master’.

      Properly educate yourself on things if you are going to stand and make a comment on them please.
      Thank you

    • This one na jus dundi….you can judge her moral etiquette from looking at a picture and assuming its “liquor pouring into her mouth”…..Plus you go one more imbecilic and moronic step below to assume that we arent basking in beautiful, uber-successful marriages with REAL MEN pulsating with common sense and infallible values that stemmed from Lusting after God’s Leadership in every ramification of their existence, and to crown it all are MORE MAN than you could ever hope to be….So sorry to disappoint you cos im a perfect example of a woman blessed to be wallowing in such Utopia……and Yep, that’s how very empty-brained and narrow-minded you are…..no need to try educating human foolishness like yourself, such education is the ” children’s bread” not for primitive animals like yourself….. Pls cover up, Your stupid is showing! #MaleScum

    • @ cynthia.I don’t engage in words with such women like you who see liquor and show of it as a show of modern civilization and emancipation from an ordained godly conduct for women. I have seen you and I know your type. U are an apostle of moral decadent.

  • Teaching a woman to learn to fix herself and work hand in hand with her husband is coming of anti Christ culture from western civilization??
    What in this post portrays that?
    Do people even reason/think before commenting. And yet u accepted the so called “anti Christ western civilization” when u agreed to learn their education, when u accepted their way of dressing and many others.

  • Our young men these days are so lazy and can’t think out of the box. .The natural order is that MEN should work for their wives and not the other way round. .Again Parents have failed woefully in the duties by raising their sons as weaklings..Real men are men who take care of their responsibilities. ..

  • Correct, that’s a good teaching. Mothers should be more enlightened in raising their male children. in our society today, women are highly marginalized in their various homes, where as they are meant to be the man’s helper.

  • what really bring “Antichrist” into this post??? that Mothers should train their male child d way they w’d love their son in-laws to be, nd their female ones to work hand in hand with their husband…….is that a bad teaching @ lazy men unfortunately out of their #cave.

  • W7hat is anti Christ culture Chioma Anigbogu in teaching mother’s to bring up their son’s properly. .working hand in hand with her husband suggests cooperation which if absent, the home might not be built properly. na wa.

  • I was raised by a father who impressed it upon me…that a man takes care of everything at home&is a leader….while his partner his wife “nurtures” the home… A man sharing financial responsibilities with his wife is no option,because that’s the way I saw my father do it..funny enough his wife had a good job at the ministry.. And she was the best wife/mum ever…the post only talks about the men….You need to be with&see the kind of girls we have around these days..many young men who are married..are simply “patching” with their stinking attitudes.. Please it swings both ways

  • Women of this generation are so rude and ignorant when they work and earn money they now feel they can be equal with men, I’m not the type that can maltreat a woman, i’v never beat a woman since I was born and I don’t think I will… But it pains me to see that people no longer teach women how to respect men but rather they try to bring down men under the arrogance of women, I see people preaching against domestic violence but I hardly see people telling women that they are under men! This is why we have high rate divorce today

  • Please teach women how to respect their man, back in the days of our mothers there parents thought the how to respect there husband and we didn’t here about divorce or domestic violence, we started hearing about divorce and domestic violence since they started educating woman that they have equal right with their husband .

    • Well you see back in the day a man commands respect he knew how to treat a woman,how to court her and how to be a man because he understood his responsibility and role This days Alot of men don’t know their role. Like wise the ladies. What am trying to say in essence is if you expect respect from a woman you should respect her as well .

  • I see men who don’t know their left and right commending this post, sorry for you if you’re one of them very soon women will start asking for a man’s hand in marriage, God forbid bad thing.

  • Proverbs 14:1 KJV
    Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
    The Bible is actually God’s word and the final authority in every matter of life. A woman being a home builder (maker) is not synonymous with slavish submission or over burdened responsibility. I think not and was not taught such, growing up.
    Back to the beginning the Holy Writ says and I quote
    Genesis 2:18 KJV
    (And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.) suitable helper the Bible means here.
    So we shld teach the young women in line with the Scriptures. Again I quote from the Bible what a good wife shld be:
    Proverbs 31:10-31 KJV
    Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. [11] The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. [12] She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. [13] She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. [14] She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. [15] She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. [16] She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. [17] She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. [18] She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. [19] She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. [20] She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. [21] She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. [22] She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. [23] Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. [24] She maketh fine linen, and selleth it ; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. [25] Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. [26] She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. [27] She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. [28] Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also , and he praiseth her. [29] Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. [30] Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord , she shall be praised. [31] Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
    I make haste to add that we shld be wary on what we teach young women. Anything teaching that contradicts the word of God even slightly is from the pit of Hell. It is because of these kind of erroneous teaching that has brought so much woe to marriages today so much so that some ladies are flexing muscles so to speak with men. A wife that needs to be treated like a queen shld carry herself as a queen. May God help us not earn God’s displeasure in the name of modernisation.

  • We can no longer wait for men to feed and cloth us
    We too can do same to our families and societies
    WE WERE ALSO TRAINED AND EDUCATED JUST LIKE THEM
    SO WHY WAITING FOR THEM TO DO MOST THINGS FOR US?
    THE ONLY THING WE WOULDN’T DO IS SHARE THE HEAD “WITH THEM

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