Do long engagements work? Jennifer Hudson breaks up with long term fiance David Otunga

This sounds awful to say, but I am not at all surprised that this couple ended up here. Lord of the Rings and Miss Thang have been engaged since 19-kpiridim, and I’ve never even seen her in a white dress, not talk of a pap photo of her at a bridal shop! I mean, David proposed to Hudson in 2008! How have y’all not found a little chapel or a registry in eleven years?? Yes, we know marriages are getting increasingly easier to walk away from, but long engagements are even easier to dispose of, I feel.

I have no doubt that her manic work schedule would have had something to do with the delay; as it is, she is currently a coach on NBC’s “The Voice”, and has constantly told whoever cares to listen that she is in no hurry to tie the knot.

Otunga, a Harvard Law graduate who went on to become a pro-wrestler (no, I don’t get it either), is now having to go through legal shenanigans as they sort out disentangling their lives and dealing with the custody disputes over their 8-year-old son David Jr.

According to People Magazine, Hudson, 36, announced the end of her ten-year relationship to Otunga, 37, exclusively to PEOPLE on Thursday. The star was also granted an emergency order of protection from the former wrestler. In her request for the order, she accused him of ongoing harassing and threatening behavior and claimed he once pushed her inside their home.

On Friday, Otunga’s lawyer filed court documents to request that Hudson’s protective order be thrown out. Otunga and Hudson’s next court date for the custody dispute is scheduled for Dec. 7 but Otunga filed a petition to have the hearing date moved up to Nov. 21 in order to spend Thanksgiving with his son.

“I am now living in fear of further action David might take,” The Voice star says her request for the order of protection, obtained by TMZ. Otunga has denied any claims of abuse or harassment via his lawyer, who told PEOPLE he plans to file for primary custody.

“Mr. Otunga wants to make it very clear that he denies each and every allegation contained in that petition. Mr. Otunga is now and has always been the primary caregiver of the parties’ son,” his lawyer, Tracy Rizzo, tells PEOPLE in a new statement on Friday.