Gentlemen, your erection is NOT your direction!


*Please be warned that the content of today’s post will be raw and rather disturbing. It will be about the male mind and the erection. The easily offended should give this a skip*

I came across a thread on one of my Facebook friend’s wall. It was an inbox message sent to her that detailed a shocking story of a man who raped his daughter. Here is a screen grab of the thread:



Now if that isn’t shocking enough, a certain specie piped up and sent the comments into a rather disturbing spiral. I’ll let you read it for yourselves:


To every man reading this, this individual above has made a statement and it is simply this: you are a creature of base instinct and the organ between your ears is merely for show.

Wave a little flesh in front of our eyes (your own flesh and blood not exempted) and off we go! As far as he is concerned when the cock says “YES”, we can’t say “NO” and thus to starve a man of sex is to turn anything available into a hole for immediate release.

Wow such an apt description of red blooded men! We are such bulls aren’t we?!

I am deeply peeved but on reflection I wonder if the above individual’s comments are not the end result of men not being asked (or made) to take responsibility for our sex drives?

By and large whenever an issue of sexual assault or adultery  comes up, we will likely run into someone (some people) who will ask questions like:

“How was she dressed?”

“What was she doing there at that time of the night?”

“Did she seduce him?”

It seems that the responsibility to keep men sane is the woman’s (and in this case girl-child’s) and when a man cheats or cruelly assaults another, he is often given a pass:

“That is how men are.

“They think with their penises”

“They are babies”

“You just have to manage them”

To the above thoughts, I have only two words: Screw that! (No pun intended)

I am a man. I am made in the image and likeness of God, with the capacity to think and feel. I am not perfect by any means but I take responsibility for my imperfections and will not place my sanity on the shoulders of a woman. This is my body. I rule it; it does not rule me.

Dear man, your body is YOUR body. Any sexual assault committed by a man is the MAN’s choice and the MAN’s fault. ALONE.

What the woman was wearing, where she was, what time she was, how many days it has been since your last orgasm DO. NOT. FACTOR. HERE.

It is your choice to do with your body what you do with it. The power is yours. We choose what we decide to be influenced by. We choose it and if you didn’t know that before, now you know.
Men, we are not some brainless dolt that needs to be managed. We are more than rush of blood to your penis head.Let us start living to our fullest selves.

Here is a little ditty I wrote a year ago that relates to this subject:

“My skirt has nothing to do with you
My body,in whatever display, is not a primal call to you
My skin is my business and none of yours
I will not be a casualty of your inner wars
I do not “ask” to be assaulted. It isn’t my call to keep you sane
I do not “ask” to be molested. There is a reason you have a brain
So no matter what you’ve been told or how you see it
My body is MY OWN CONCERN. MINE. So own your shit”


So those are my thoughts. What are yours? Kindly comment below and let us know.

I shut up now.


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  1. The thief will say it’s not him it’s his hand or the devil? The rapist will say it’s my penis or the devil? Maybe the offending body parts should be looped off and incinerated?!?! Bullshit sexual starvation should now cause a man to rape his own daughter. I’m feeling sick, menh!

  2. I am a male of the human specie but I am personally not directed by my penis. It is the highest level of lack of self control for a man not to be selective when it comes to who to shove his dick into. The way I see it, It is a thing of the mind. Once a man doesn’t see a female as a sex object, the body will not respond sexual to the person. Becoming sexually involved with a person is a process involving many stages before the final point of no return (the final stage) is reached. The individual that has self control should be able to terminate/halt the thought of process at a reasonable point before things get out of hands. I pray, the temptation that will be beyond our ability will not come our ways in Jesus name

  3. Some comments are not as beautiful as their “commenttees”. This Man raped HIS own daughter. Just like crashing his own Car without hurting another person. Why not just leave him to God. Whatever he is saying led him to commit the act is definitely going to lead him to Hell unless God accepts his repentance, which of course He will. Nobody is perfectly sane. We all have done nasty things in life. Maybe in secret or in open. There are many women who had slept with their fathers, house boys, gardeners even their friends husbands but are walking our streets with respect. Lets learn to leave endtime actions to God. Its not as if this Guy will be the last Daughter-rapist.

  4. Regiemart A’idiok, your line of thought has many implications. 1. His daughter is like a car which can be bought with money and replaced once he crashes one. 2. Like a car crash that involves no other person he should be left alone: the daughter doesn’t have a life of her own abi, or it is just that her life doesn’t matter as long as it is the Dad that desires to crash her life for his own pleasure? I can go on and on but it will look as if I am putting you down but will like to comment on the part about living him to God to judge. In as much as you are probably right in that, we need to learn from his weakness and not think we are super human. We can therefore be able to halt the stream of thought/action that can degenerate into sexual impropriety.

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